A lady living with her boyfriend is perplex at his attitude towards her as he’s keeping spreadsheet of how much she owes him so she can pay him when she finally gets a job.
She wrote on redit,
We’ve been together for almost a year, and 2 months ago he moved to the other side of the country. We both graduated college last year, he got a job right out of college making $200k+/year. Neither of us have debt, and he is extremely frugal with how he spends his money. I am currently unemployed but actively interviewing, both my grandparents died within the last year, and to put it simply, I haven’t been okay since then. I am not financially well off, and I dislike my situation living at home.
He is aware of this, and is offering to break his current lease to find a place for us to live together. However, he says it’s unreasonable to fully support 2 people at this time, and that he is happy to split costs evenly and keep a tab of the amount I owe, and I can repay it back over time once I get a job. I honestly don’t know how to feel about this, I’m scared that once I do get a job, I won’t make nearly as much, and that it’ll end up taking me years to pay him back. I don’t know how I should feel about this proposition in general.
I truly do not want to sound entitled, but this offer scares me. I know the reasonable option is for me to decline and keep living at home, but I don’t know, maybe this is a good offer? Any advice would be appreciated, thank you.
tldr; boyfriend and I want to move in together, and is offering to keep a tab of how much I owe, since i currently don’t have much to offer
edit-I didn’t expect this many people to respond. Thank you. I genuinely appreciate the advice and kind words ❤️
I’ve also seen a few comments saying that I’m a leech. To clarify, I have never asked him for money and would never expect him to fund my life, as I don’t want to rely on someone else. I would love to front 50% of everything once I accept a full-time offer.